Honest letters from the basement of grief.
Not advice. Not a workbook. Just someone who has been there, writing to someone who is there now.
Not advice. Not a workbook. Just someone who has been there, writing to someone who is there now.
Letter 1 — Everyone grieves differently The one that arrives first, when the silence is loudest. Because grief doesn't look the same on everyone — and that loneliness inside the loneliness is real.
Letter 2 — The advice that actually helped The things people said that stung, the things that didn't land, and the two pieces of advice that finally gave me something to hold onto.
Letter 3 — Finding a grief crutch How my family channeled grief into something — a dog, a business, a two-hour massage session that turned into a sob fest. What are you letting grief do to you?
Letter 4 — When grief shows up in your body My mom couldn't stand up the morning of the funeral. I lost my appetite for flirting for a full year. Grief is a shape-shifter — and this letter names the ways it shows up when you're not expecting it.
Letter 5 — The first holiday, birthday, milestone The birthdays, the anniversaries, the empty seat at the table. This letter is for the dread that builds before the hard dates — and what to do when nothing braces you for the blow anyway.
Letter 6 — The prayer that taught me surrender Not the prayer that made it better. The one that helped me stop asking for the pain to end and start asking for the strength to carry it. Faith shows up here — honestly, not perfectly.
Letter 7 — The weird ways grief changes you Grief plays us like a puppet. The personality shifts, the strange new habits, the version of yourself you don't fully recognize. This one names it out loud.
Letter 8 — Healing through the person you lost How going back to who they were — their quirks, their advice, their voice in your head — becomes part of how you find your way forward.
Letter 9 — Survivor's guilt and the regrets The things left unsaid. The visits that didn't happen. The guilt that shows up long after the grief does. This is the letter for the heavy stuff nobody wants to bring up.
Letter 10 — Signs of feeling normal The first time you laugh without guilt. The first morning you wake up and grief isn't the first thing you reach for. What "better" actually looks like — slowly, unevenly.
Letter 11 — Gratitude and recognizing who showed up Looking back at the year and seeing, clearly, who stayed. This letter is about finding hope in the people and moments that carried you without you even realizing it.
Letter 12 — The death anniversary, and it's okay to not be okay The last letter of the year. For the hardest date on the calendar — and the quiet permission to still be in it, even now, even after all of this
Here's a look at letter #1